Is Porn Cheating? Depends.

This week on the Good Men Project, I write about porn. Specifically, I was asked to address the question, “Is Porn Cheating?” I think not. But then again…. who cares what I think?

After some minor soulsearching and irritating my friends with incessant questions, I’ve landed here: It’s only cheating if your partner thinks it’s cheating. Every couple has to make their rules and abide by them. What your friends and neighbors think of your sexual mores is entirely beside the point, as long as you two agree to respect guidelines that suit your relationship.

Read on for more of my views on porn, plus the points-of-view of three gracious volunteers who offered some other perspectives:

Related Post: Last week on the GMP, Hugo and I hashed out the debate on who pays for dates. Who knew it came down to razors?

Related Post: My piece on how not to respond when your partner doesn’t orgasm made it on The Frisky.

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8 responses to “Is Porn Cheating? Depends.

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  2. Kirsten

    Without regard to morals, without regard to religion….. you have only scratched the surface of this subject. It is cheating…whether your partner thinks it is or not,,, doesn’t matter. You should research this more…. your writing is good.. even if I don’t agree with your first decision in the matter.

    ” Those who profit from victimizing children and adults in the sex trade are only one half of the problem. The other half are those who patronize this exploitive industry.” If you look at porn, even the free porn, you are patronizing the industry.

    Read more, please, study more, please….. http://www.pornharms.com

  3. Kirsten

    http://www.newsweek.com/2011/07/17/the-growing-demand-for-prostitution.html
    The men who buy sex are your neighbors and colleagues. A new study reveals how the burgeoning demand for porn and prostitutes is warping personal relationships and endangering women and girls.

    S

  4. Greg

    If my partner were more interested in masturbating to porn, and lets face it, thats the porpose, than being with me, damn straight I concider that cheating. And if you know anything about porn addiction, thats usually exactly what eventually happens. The fantasy becomes more attractive than the reality.

  5. Greymatter

    Supply and demand, think about it – I’m am so tired of hearing the “majority” say its ok, all men do it, whats the big deal? Not all men do it, men and woman are not that different but women choose NOT to they know the negative effects it has on everyone involved – the more we continue to “accept” it the more the demand goes up and someone be it children, young girls, women, men has to be used to supply it – so think about that. Whats wrong with men thinking things in their own minds and then exploring things with their partner, or you mean to tell me men haven’t masterbated by just thinking of something in their minds. You think women have been “faking” it all this time because they are thinking of the one they are with come on-everyone needs to get real with themselves with the one they are with and be respectful – why is that man states that only animals behave badly – animals don’t do crap like this only man does.

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